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15 Nov

post-partum Q&A: life with a newborn!

every day, I truly feel blessed to wake up to this precious little baby boy. nothing can truly prepare you for the emotional roller coaster of motherhood (especially in the first couple of days/weeks), but in the end, once you find your stride, it is truly a beautiful feeling and something I’ll never take for granted.

for those of you new mamas and expectant mamas, I’ve put together a Q&A based on the questions I’ve received since baby Luca was born. if you have any questions, leave them in the comments and I’ll do my best to answer as many as possible, as they come in!

life with a newborn: q&a

how have you been feeling: hormones, body, relationship changes?

hormonally, at first, was crazy! I’m the type of person that only cries once a year (literally, once.) needless to say, dealing with the insane hormonal surges that happen post-delivery was shocking for me. there were times when I’d look at Luca, terrified, and want to cry. there were other times when I’d look at him and want to cry out of pure joy and happiness. there were also times when Lu wouldn’t be understanding about something and it would make me want to cry. there were times when I was home with Luca and would feel overwhelmed if he wasn’t sleeping all day and I’d want to cry. I have only cried once – I let myself have a big cry! it was so therapeutic. now, at 7+ weeks postpartum, my hormones are back in balance, thankfully. I look forward to my next cry next year, haha!

as for my body, I feel nothing but pride! I’m just so amazed by the miracle that is birth. I am so proud of my body. I worked out consistently during my pregnancy and ate as healthy as possible, so my body looks great to me for just giving birth. I also told myself I’d be gentle on myself and not rush back into getting into shape and let me save my extra energy for cuddling and taking care of Luca. according to my postpartum doctor’s appointment, I have 8 lbs left of pregnancy weight, which I feel good about – I need that extra fat for breastfeeding! I’m definitely as soft as I’ve been in years, but I’m okay with that. there will be time for getting back into shape, but for now, I’m enjoying this stage in my body!

relationship changes. well. it’s two fold! most importantly, I love Lu more than I did before the baby! watching him with our son melts my heart so much. he’s a natural Daddy and I love seeing how comforted and protected Luca looks in his arms. seeing Lu with Luca is just the best thing, and proves I really did marry the right man, haha! building a family with Lu has brought more love into our household than ever before. I love seeing the excitement on his face when he comes home from work, ready to snuggle Luca. on the other hand, we don’t have much Lu and Ali time. at night, sometimes we can have dinner together, which is great, but mostly, it’s ‘get the baby to sleep, catch up on house chores, and get to bed.” since I do all the night shifts with the baby, I try to go to bed as early as possible (by 9:30pm at the latest), so it leaves little time for us – since Lu gets home around 7pm each night. thank goodness for the weekends, where we can rekindle and spend time together! I’m looking more forward to when Luca is a bit older and on a schedule so Lu and I can have dedicated time together – and go on more dates once that schedule is established (and when my Mom’s in town!)

how are you dealing without wine?

ha! I’ve gotten this question a lot and honestly, I haven’t craved it at all. during my pregnancy, I abstained from all alcohol and frankly, the LAST thing I want is a slight hangover, headache or tiredness at nighttime when I need to get as much rest as possible and handle a newborn. I was going to have a drink with Lu on his 39th birthday, but I ended up not because it was too close to Luca’s feeding and I didn’t want to risk it. I plan on having my first glass of wine at Thanksgiving, and I’m actually really looking forward to it!!

how did you exercise during your pregnancy?

you can read all about that here.

any products you bought and ended up not using?

yes! plenty! any swaddles where the arms are contained (like the Love to Dream ones everyone raved about while I was pregnant) Luca loves having his arms out and is now an exclusive tummy sleeper at night, so they didn’t work. other items I haven’t used yet are a lot of the toys, but they were gifts and he’ll grow into them. I didn’t use short sleeve onesies – he’s happier when he’s warmer, so we stored the short sleeve onesies for our next baby (maybe he/she’ll be a summer baby and if not, we’ll donate them!)  I haven’t used any of my bottles, only because I haven’t had a reason to – the boob is it right now!

tips for self care after delivery?

well, that all depends on how your delivery goes! I’d say definitely grab as much of the goodies the hospital gives you. I loved the witch hazel pads for lining my underwear to soothe my stitches (I had minimal tearing, if you have an episiotomy or more serious stretching, there is much more you’ll need – like ice packs!) other self care- honestly, a great robe and nursing nightgown. feeling beautiful in a nice nightgown was the best for me in the beginning.

also, make sure you take care of yourself. shower! brush your teeth. wash your face at the very least! use under-eye cream (this is my favorite). I would also make it a point to straighten my hair once a week, so that I’d feel more human and pretty – good self esteem can go a long way when you’re dealing with a needy newborn! I’d just spritz in my favorite dry shampoo every day to keep it going for most of the week. I’d basically coordinate with Lu – I’d give him the baby at 6:30am after I was done feeding him and then I’d “do me” – shower, get dressed, etc.

and most importantly, drink LOTS of water and eat as well as possible. that always makes the biggest impact on your overall mental and physical well being.

if you’re looking for products I did/didn’t use in the hospital post-delivery, check out this post.

my baby only wants to sleep on my chest, any tips to transfer to bassinet?

warm up the bassinet with your dirty clothes! putting your baby down on a cold, hard surface after being on your warm, mommy-smelling chest is shocking for the baby, I’d imagine! I would place worn clothing on the bassinet mattress so when it was time to put the baby down, I would remove all the clothing and put him in there and it would smell like me and be a bit warm!

also, if I’m transferring Luca to the bassinet, I’ll get him in the right position in my arms to do so and I’ll rock him and make sure he’s good and asleep – that’s key! if he’s wide awake when I try to put him down, he won’t stay down. sometimes I’ll stand for 10 minutes rocking him, but it’s worth it if he sleeps for hours after that!

other than that, just enjoy him sleeping on your chest! just put on a good movie or fall asleep with him. just accept that productivity on certain days/weeks is going to be lower than others!

what do you do when the baby won’t stop crying?

well, we recently succumbed to the pacifier! at first, we weren’t using it at all (like, the first 5 weeks) because I was worried about things like nipple confusion and I didn’t want to be a slave to the pacifier in the middle of the night. now, we use it when he’s just so tired and can’t get to sleep – it helps him cross the line into slumber and then we pull it out once he’s asleep so that he doesn’t get used to having it in his mouth all night long and thus, dependent on it. it really helps especially when he’s crying for no reason!

BUT if you haven’t read happiest baby on the block yet and know about the 5 Ss, then you’re missing out! read up on it, we use every single one of them and they work every time, even though it may take some time to quiet him.

how do you pull off being a Mom-preneur?

well, I’ll let you know once I’m fully back into work! right now, I’m doing light amounts of work, just really staying on top of my Inbox and trying to keep up with content creation on social. I’m not quite sure how I’m going to pull it off, so stay tuned! but, time blocking is huge and capitalizing on baby’s sleep time – don’t waste time on silly things like scrolling through your Instagram feed or doing house work that isn’t urgent. create ‘must do’ lists and try to stick to them throughout the day, although you may not always get to them.

what’s your plan for when you start exercising again?

slow and steady! I’m not going to get right back into it with a strict workout plan. at first, I’m going to try to workout on weekends, since Lu is around and can watch the baby while I go to the gym. I haven’t developed a plan, especially since it’s the holidays and I want to enjoy this festive time with the baby and my family.

most importantly, I’m going to focus on weekend workouts, eating well (I’m definitely indulging more than I normally would right now), and hour long walks with the baby outside (before it gets frigid, that is!) once I do develop a plan, I’ll be sharing it here!

what does your day to day with the baby look like?

every day is so different, honestly! different and the same. it’s a mixture of feedings, naps (or trying to get him to nap), momma naps, house chores, work, and playing with Luca. if he’s napping well and “on schedule”, here’s what the day looks like:

6:30am: feeding
7-7:30am: time with Daddy
7:30am: try to get the baby down for a nap (which usually entails wearing him in the Ergo Baby) while Lu gets ready for work.
7:45-9ish: baby naps and I make breakfast, do house chores, work, etc.
9-10:30am: feed the baby and play with the baby (tummy time, mobiles, etc)
10:30am-12:30pm: baby naps and I do work usually
12:30-2pm: feed and play with the baby
2-3:30pm: walk with baby outside- he usually naps in the stroller during this time and it’s nice for me to get some fresh air.
3:30-5pm: feed and play with baby
5-7pm: baby naps and I get dinner ready or nap myself
7-8:30pm: Lu gets home and plays with the baby, we bathe him, massage him, and then I feed him
8:30-9:30pm: Lu gets the baby to sleep in the rocking chair and with his favorite lullaby music
9:30pm-12am: baby sleeps and we do too (or we try to have some one on one time before passing out)
12-12:30am: feed the baby and put him back down to sleep
12:30-3:30am: baby sleeps (and me too!)
3:30-4am: feed the baby and put him back down to sleep
4-6:30/7:00am: baby sleeps (and me too!)

how have you been balancing losing postpartum weight with being hungry from breastfeeding?

eating nutritiously as possible! I definitely have my cravings (and give in to them!) but I try to eat as healthy as I can so that I’m full off of the “right stuff.” eating a bowl of Fruit Loops won’t fill you up like a piece of avocado toast, ya know? I eat a lot to keep my milk supply up and keep the baby and myself healthy. I definitely eat more than normal, but that’s to be expected – you’re supposed to eat more to keep up with how much you’re burning from breastfeeding! I’m treating my diet the same way I did in the third trimester and the weight is peeling off – if I gave up the sweets and salty cravings at night, I’d probably be back to my pre-pregnancy weight by now, but I’m enjoying this time!

did you cut out all dairy for breastfeeding? do you find the normal gas causing veggies cause gas for the baby?

I found that dairy does affect the baby mildly, so I’ve cut it 80% out of my diet. I will have Greek yogurt here and there or some cheese in my meal, but I’m really abstaining from it right now for a couple more months until his digestive system is better. as for the veggies – they don’t cause any issues, so I am eating plenty of brussels sprouts and cauliflower! I tested this all out by eliminating them completely versus eating them and there was no difference, so I’m going with it!

how has Luca’s nighttime sleep evolved? is he sleeping longer stretches? did you try to schedule or are you totally responding to his cues/feeding times?

he’s in a bit of a sleep regression right now where he won’t nap very well and has to be attached to me, but before that, he was sleeping 5-6 hour stretches! it was definitely tough at first (and totally unpredictable), but by week 4, he started having a quasi schedule. I’m not doing any sleep training at the moment, I’m just following his cues – I can see when he’s hungry and that’s when he gets up! I never force him to sleep or don’t pick him up when he’s hungry. I’m planning on sleep training around week 8 (two months, right after the Thanksgiving holiday!)

what soap, lotion, etc products are you using for baby?

Babyganics, Zoe Organics and Noodle & Boo.

favorite clothes for the baby?

I quickly realized NO NO NO to clasps/buttons! at the newborn age, time is precious and the last thing you want to be doing is fumbling with a button at 3am while your baby is screaming to be fed. my favorite places have been GAP for zip-up onesies and Magnetic Me (magnets as clasps – it doesn’t get much easier than that!)

anything you would add or alter, prep-wise, now that you’ve gotten to enjoy the meals you prepared before Luca entered the world?

unfortunately, I don’t have much freezer room, so I did as much as possible! I am SO SO happy I did buy what I bought, though! it was immensely helpful in the beginning. meal prep is key for a healthy postpartum experience!

did you have any initial issues with breastfeeding at first?

basic latching, yes! he RUINED my nipples at first. you can read more about that here and how I remedied it. now breastfeeding is my favorite part of new motherhood! I’m going to have my LC over here on the blog to share her breastfeeding tips! stay tuned.

are you planning to pump at all and if so, any tips/what your experience has been?

I am definitely planning on pumping soon so that I can get the baby accustomed to a bottle, since I have my sister’s bachelorette in January, wedding in February and a couple other events where I won’t be able to breastfeed Luca. for now, I’m just pumping if I feel engorged. there was a two week period where Luca was going 6 hours between feedings and I was getting engorged, so I pumped a couple ounces to relieve the pressure. I am using the Spectra S2 pump and I couldn’t love it anymore! I don’t love manual pumping.

did you experience any baby blues or post partum depression/anxiety? If so, what helped?

the day my mother left and Lu went back to work, I had a lot of anxiety. was I going to be able to do this? would I be able to survive the sleep deprivation? after two days of being alone with Luca at home, I realized that it’s all natural to have that anxiety and it went away once my maternal instinct took over! just know that it’s normal to feel nervous about rearing a child by yourself, but we’re built for this, and as long as you listen to your gut and trust your instincts, that’s what’s important. texting and calling friends helped tremendously in the beginning – any issues I had while I was home alone got remedied with a text!

there were times in the first two weeks when I would look at Luca and be shocked that this was my new reality. it wasn’t a depressing, but definitely a little bout of the blues. could I do this for years? every day seemed to drag on (but the weeks fly by somehow!) as selfish as it may sound, it’s hard to adjust to 24 hours of caring for someone else and not yourself. it’s overwhelming and you feel very alone at first. however, once you become more comfortable and confident with being a mom, it’s less scary – and my blues turned into loving bliss by the end of the first week.

talk to me about tummy sleeping

from about week 4, Luca started spitting up. a lot. he also was fidgeting like crazy when we put him down to nap and sleep on his back. we realized it was because of his reflux/spitting up. luckily, he’s a ‘happy spitter,’ so it’s no cause for concern. also, from day 1, he loved having the use of his arms and hands. he soothes himself by sucking on his fists/fingers and without them, he goes into distress mode and wails. so, we never swaddled his arms in (even the nurses suggest we let his arms out in the hospital!) when we’d put him down on his back, swaddled, he’d wake himself up constantly from his startle reflexes.

so. we started sleeping Luca in the Rock n’ Play – and it worked great, for about a week or so. then, he started growing and seemed to feel squished – and started the nightly fidgets. he’d sleep for 20-30 minutes and then fidget for 5 minutes until he fell back asleep. it was MISERABLE and we felt so bad, because he he barely slept (and we barely slept either!) he was getting really fussy during the day and we think it was because his reflux got worse on his back and he was so delirious from lack of good sleep.

we were at our wit’s end when, at about week 4.5-5, my mother was here for a visit. she noticed this and right away suggested we put him on his tummy, because it would feel better on his belly. like magic, Luca slept. like, instantly! he slept deeply, no fidgets. at all. and just like that, miraculously, he became a dream baby – no fussiness and loved sleeping. he started sleeping 4-5 hours!

we asked our pediatrician right away if this was okay and say that Luca was ‘mature for his age’ and had great neck and head control, so it was okay to do, as long as we slept next to him and monitored him. for the first couple of weeks, we slept right next to him – in the nursery in his crib. now, we sleep in our bedroom with Luca in the bedroom and our monitor on as loud as possible next to my bed, on a nightstand. we don’t put any blankets in the crib or other SIDS risks.

while I was nervous at first to sleep him on his tummy, it’s been better for our baby and us. we can sleep and better take care of him – and he’s much happier sleeping on his tummy. we were torturing him on his back! when we go for walks in the stroller, if he’s bundled up, he sleeps nicely on his back. when we get to a restaurant or somewhere warm inside, we unbundle him and flip him on his tummy so he can sleep!

PLUS it’s like constant tummy time – he moves his head back and forth all the time to get comfortable!

if you had a similar situation, talk to your pediatrician – I’m just sharing what worked for us and what blessing our pediatrician gave us.

let me know if you have another questions and I will answer them when I get the chance!

all photos by Erin Dwyer Photography.

60 Comments
  • Arielle

    What will your 8 week sleep training method be?

    Wed November 15 at 6:07 pm Reply
  • Georgia

    PLEASE think twice about sleep training. It is extremely cruel to let your baby cry. Their biggest fear is being away from you. It is normal for babies to wake up multiple times in the middle of the night until the age of 2. The part of their brain that helps them "self soothe" is not even developed until around the age of 2. PLEASE do more research on what a normal infant is before you "sleep train" bc you want sleep. Sleep training is for parents only. Not babies. They dont need to be taught how to sleep just like they dont need to be taught how to walk. It comes naturally when they are ready. 8 weeks is also EXTREMELY early to even attempt something like that. What sleep training does is teach the baby that their needs are not going to be met so eventually they shut down and stop calling out for you. ( its science) We dont get to just stop parenting at night because we want sleep. As a parent…you are on duty 24/7 whenever your child needs you. Please read the posted link below before you consider doing that to your sweet baby. I really enjoyed following you but I dont think I can anymore. I hope you change your mind and put your babies needs before yours at night. Good luck with that sweet boy!
    http://raisedgood.com/self-soothing-biggest-con-new-parenthood/

    Wed November 15 at 6:07 pm Reply
    • Ashley

      It is most definitely NOT normal for a child up to two to wake up multiple times a night.

      A mom knows her baby best and we all need to respect that and stop judging/commenting on others’ ways of parenting. The “Mom shaming” needs to stop!!!

      All of the cruel and hateful comments on here make me so sad and frustrated for you. Ali!

      Fri November 17 at 5:01 am Reply
    • Tracy

      As an early childhood trained professional (yes I’ve dedicated my life to this…and the sciences) Babies do learn to self-soothe as early as 8 weeks. Just look at them sucking on their fingers. You are welcome to parent your child how you would like however I think it’s safe to say that all the parents who chose to self soothe and not inflicting life long negative impacts on their babies.

      Fri November 17 at 3:19 pm Reply
  • Tiffany

    I NEVER post things in response to a blog article. I have been reading Ali’s blog for awhile now & am in awe of her organization, dedication & the incredible amount of research she does before undertaking any new project. Georgia, please do not scold Ali for sharing her own thoughts & ideas about how she approaches motherhood. When & if Ali decides to sleep train her baby, it is her decision. One thing I’m most positive of is that she has done her research & aware of all benefits, risks & alternatives. Berating other mothers for the choices they make can have a detrimental effect on self-esteem. Instead of trying to school her on the choices she is making, why don’t instead applaud her for the beautiful baby she has & the way she has let everyone into her life to share this wonderful event. The choices you may make for yourself may be completely different from those other mothers may make for themselves. I was horrified when my mother visited after my son’s birth & promptly told me to put him to sleep on his tummy. It was the only thing that helped his colic. Other folks were cruel & said outrageous things to me but I knew it was the right decision for my son. Please respect Ali & the decisions she makes – do not condemn her. She has allowed you into her space & you thank her with disrespect. Rock on, Ali. You are a beautiful, talented, smart, organized, kick ass chic & baby Luca is so very lucky to have you.

    Wed November 15 at 6:28 pm Reply
    • Linda Cantwell

      Amen! I️ agree with you completely.

      Wed November 15 at 6:37 pm Reply
    • Charity Cerminara

      Tiffany you make a great point. i am there with you. As a new Mom i am disheartened and sad to read Georgias comments. There is no need to be so cruel. There are so many bigger issues in life, please find another cause and don’t use this platform to assert a personal opinion. This beautiful family does not need the negativity.
      Ali, you are doing an amazing job. You are so kind to let us into your world and share your life with Luca. I have a little boy who was born in May of this year, Lorenzo. ???? keep the great posts coming, your honesty is wonderful and refreshing.

      Wed November 15 at 7:24 pm Reply
  • Linda

    Luca is so adorable, and I’m so happy for you and Lu. Blessings for you and your sweet family during the Thanksgiving Holiday season.

    Wed November 15 at 6:33 pm Reply
  • Julie

    Your family photos are so precious, Ali. It’s been great following your journey, thanks for sharing it with us.

    Wed November 15 at 7:31 pm Reply
  • Lauren

    For anyone who is giving Ali a hard time about "sleep training," she didn’t say she was just going to let him cry all night. There are some very gradual/gentle methods of sleep coaching that allow babies to fall asleep independently. Even Dr. Karp from Happiest Baby on the Block has some tips for how to do this that don’t involve extended periods of crying that often give sleep training a bad name.

    Thank you, Ali, for clarifying that you spoke to your pediatrician about tummy sleeping. I was getting a little concerned when I saw the Instagram stories. The AAP strongly warns against placing a baby to sleep on their tummy due to SIDS concerns, which peaks between the ages of 2-4 months and is more common with male infants (for some unknown reason). I personally never felt comfortable with tummy sleeping until my son could roll both ways, but I know all moms must weigh risks and benefits and include their doctor in their conversations. Also, I know Luca sleeps with arms out, but it would probably be good to mention that swaddled babies (arms in) should never sleep on their tummy. There’s just SO much information out there. It’s very overwhelming for first time moms.

    Wed November 15 at 7:50 pm Reply
  • Katy

    Thank you so much for sharing your journey as a new mom. I’m newly pregnant and posts like these are great to find new products and hear your experience first hand. My question is this…what did you eat in first trimester when you may have been feeling the effects of the hormones? I’m just entering week 7 and getting the energy to cook, grocery shop and eat healthy is a STRUGGLE. I’m eating healthy for the most part, but don’t feel I’m getting enough fruit/vegetables since popcorn and rice crackers are more appealing!

    Wed November 15 at 8:31 pm Reply
    • Deirdre

      Smoothies really helped with my first trimester nausea & they’re a great way to get a lot of nutrition when you have food aversions or losing your appetite quickly! Leafy greens & protein powders can give you a lot of nutrition & for me, my nausea was worse on an empty stomach so once I had some smoothie i was able to eat more meals the rest of the day! Good luck!

      Fri November 17 at 12:24 am Reply
  • Koll

    Ali, thanks for the material regarding sleeping on tummy. In the day, we placed our infants on their tummy. I have twins coming for my son and DIL come December. If the babies have trouble sleeping, I will mention them talking to their doctor about tummy sleeping.

    Wed November 15 at 8:52 pm Reply
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    Wed November 15 at 9:32 pm Reply
  • Theresa

    Georgia you are a mom bully! We should be supporting each other. Ali you are doing a great job!

    Wed November 15 at 10:44 pm Reply
  • Kimber

    What kind of quack pediatrician told you it’s okay for a 7 week old to sleep on their stomach? I’d be looking for a new pediatrician if I were you. That’s unheard of quick frankly, frightening.

    Thu November 16 at 3:13 am Reply
    • Kimber

      *and quite frankly

      Thu November 16 at 3:14 am Reply
  • Jen

    I don’t see how having the monitoring in as loud as possible me is going to save a baby in the event it stops breathing? Back is best and shame on you doctor for “blessing” this.

    Thu November 16 at 12:54 pm Reply
  • Stella @ Stellicious Life

    Luca is SO adorable, and all those faces he makes, I can’t help but laugh 😀

    Thanks for sharing your tips and what worked for you, you are such a role model for a young relaxed first time mom-entrepreneur, kudos to you! And please keep on sharing more photos of baby Luca, he’s adorable 😀 (and I count back the days until your new cookbook is available!! 🙂

    Thu November 16 at 1:20 pm Reply
  • Beth

    Wow, people certainly have their opinions and really feel like they need to tell you them! Keep doing what you’re doing and do what works best for you and your family! 🙂 That’s my advice for you – from a Mom of an 8 year old and 6 year old twins.

    Thu November 16 at 2:24 pm Reply
  • John

    STOP WITH THE BOOB OUT, NURSING SELFIES! They aren’t cute. At all. Your Instagram page is a BUSINESS account. Post that stuff over on your blog account. The people that are there for recipes and all things spiralizing are there for just that, not to see selfies of your boobs.

    Thu November 16 at 4:35 pm Reply
    • Julia

      Preeeeaaaaaaach. Also keep in mind that you have thousands of followers whom most of are at work and the boobs out unfortunately are NSFW. All for empowered women and whatever works for nurturing your baby, but the Instagram world DEFINITELY doesn’t need to see a daily picture of your boobs.

      Thu November 16 at 4:44 pm Reply
      • Deirdre

        That’s kind of the point, feeding children needs to be normalized, boobs aren’t just sexual. Also why are you watching Instagram stories at work? Get back to work!

        Fri November 17 at 12:19 am Reply
      • Erin

        Wow. All of you are far too sensitive. Get over yourselves. It’s just breastfeeding. If it’s NSFW maybe you shouldn’t be checking Instagram while at work. Or just go unfollow her. I really don’t think you have any clue what it means to be a social media influencer. If she wants to share this new stage of her life, she is 100% entitled to. So like I said, go unfollow her if it bothers you too much.

        Fri November 17 at 12:20 am Reply
      • Jessica

        Why are you on Instagram at work instead of working?

        Fri November 17 at 2:13 am Reply
      • Sarah Lovell

        Breastfeeding is In fact, NOT NSFW. In fact, at least in NY, a woman can legally breastfeed anywhere she is allowed to be. A swimsuit pic would be fine, but nursing isn’t? Check yourself and how this commentary suppresses women and mothers.

        Fri November 17 at 4:16 pm Reply
    • Andrea Samacicia

      I agree – please put your boobs away while breastfeeding!!

      Thu November 16 at 5:10 pm Reply
      • Deirdre

        lol what? Please put your food away when you’re eating dinner, we don’t want to see that!

        Fri November 17 at 12:17 am Reply
    • LLM

      I have to agree – please keep that special moment between you and your son offline.

      Thu November 16 at 5:15 pm Reply
    • Aly

      That photo was not posted on her Inspiralized business account but her Instagram for her BLOG. If you follow her blog Instagram, then you are there to see photos from her life, not recipes and spiralizing. So dude, you have nothing to complain about here because according to you, it’s already fine.

      Thu November 16 at 5:19 pm Reply
      • John

        You’re certainly wrong. They are posted to her Inspiralized page.

        Thu November 16 at 6:24 pm Reply
        • John

          And what I meant is the people who are there following that page are there for recipes, spiraizing etc not boob pics.

          Thu November 16 at 6:40 pm Reply
          • Seestarrs

            Do you notice how you are saying “Boob pics” but the fact is they are “nursing pics”. This alone should give you some insight into where the problem lies. In your head. If you don’t want to see the sliver/crescent of a womans breast, stay of the beach. And lastly, she posts these mainly on her “Story” where she is more personal having verbal exchanges with her closer followers. Clearly that is not you. So I say, no, don’t unfollow… because she is well worth your time. Better yet, stay of the personal Stories and buy her recipe book instead of only freeloading. There is something here for everyone. I personally want to see more nursing posts because as a mom, I like seeing a person go beyond just “sales” and express themselves as a human being. Skip past the “NURSING” posts if you run into them & get thise awesome recipes.

            Fri November 17 at 4:12 am
          • John

            Read the comments, I’m clearly not the only person who doesn’t want to see breastfeeding selfies on a business account. Lest we not forget Ali told us while pregnant that she wouldn’t be posting much of the baby on her account. Lu wasn’t comfortable and she swore her food account wouldn’t become all baby. Why not post these things over on her personal ali b page? It’s simple. Those that want to see them can follow over there. And those who just want recipes and food stuff can stay on Inspiralized.

            Fri November 17 at 3:13 pm
          • Seestarrs

            I’ve read the comments. Based on the fact that the majority of us are fine with it, then you get to take a walk. Like I said, stop freeloading on her accounts only to complain. You don’t get to decide for all of us… your choice is to walk away or learn how to quickly swipe past a nursing pic without picturing “boobs” that you don’t even see.

            Fri November 17 at 7:54 pm
    • John

      Not to mention, you can’t have your cake and eat it too Ali. You’re confused. You cover up in public because you’re uncomfortable (like you mentioned on the set of the cookbook shoot) but you post breastfeeding selfies on your public Instagram. So which is it? You can’t normalize breastfeeding by hiding under a cover in public.

      Thu November 16 at 6:26 pm Reply
      • Sasha

        Sounds like anyone who doesn’t want to see Ali’s boob in a breastfeeding sense – is free to leave! A much classier alternative than sounding off regarding your opinions about HER body and what SHE chooses to share on HER account!

        Fri November 17 at 12:42 am Reply
      • Emily

        Please tell us all about what you did when you breastfed, John. We’re all truly dying to know. Please unfollow Alli and find another hobby besides trolling people online..it’s not a good look. The word ‘mansplain’ was invented after losers like you.

        Fri November 17 at 3:52 am Reply
        • John

          I’ve watched my wife successfully exclusively breastfeed all 3 of our children so I’m rather familiar with the art of breastfeeding. Think about it ladies…on one hand she posts/says free the nipple! Normalize breastfeeding! It’s human nature! And on the other hand she breastfeeds under a cover in public. Practice what you preach. That’s all. Pretty simple. Otherwise you just come across as jumping on the “normalize breastfeeding” bandwagon. If you’re going to be a platform inciting change, then be one. It’s just awfully hypocritical to say one thing but do another

          Fri November 17 at 4:56 am Reply
          • Sarah Lovell

            Here’s the thing, John…she can decide sometimes to cover and sometimes to not. She gets to choose because it’s her breastfeeding relationship, her baby, her body and her social media. No one needs hard and fast rules and I for one am super tired of men telling women how it should be.

            Scroll on by, next time you feel the need to shame a woman for her choices when they don’t line up with what you think she SHOULD be doing.

            Fri November 17 at 4:12 pm
    • Amanda

      John, you are foolish, and (while comical to read) I feel embarrassed for you and your ridiculous comments. I can only assume you are truly uneducated on how to use a social media platform. Ali can post WHATEVER she wants. It’s her account, not yours. So quiet down, do some self reflection and unfollow her Instagram. Ali, I think you are wonderful and inspiring. Keep up the fantastic work!

      Fri November 17 at 12:48 am Reply
    • Kayla Cronin

      Allow me to give you some unsolicited advice, John. The next time you feel the need to criticize a woman for posting pictures of breastfeeding, don’t. The only shameful thing here is your comments. Shame on you for criticizing someone who is doing something beautiful and natural and wants to share is with those of us who “get it.” Maybe this isn’t the community for you. #boybye.

      Fri November 17 at 5:41 am Reply
      • John

        Read around Kayla. I’m not the only one who feels this way. Several other people commented in agreement that the nursing selfies should be kept to the personal instagram, not the business page. Hello?? Can any of you people read?

        Fri November 17 at 9:53 pm Reply
    • Lora

      You’re posting on alissandrab.com, her personal blog. There are no noodles on this URL. You obviously don’t hate it that much if you’re ready the post and finding the "comment" section. Find a hobby, John. Find a hobby. Rocking NICU babies, perhaps? ????

      Fri November 17 at 5:22 pm Reply
      • John

        Lora, you’re stupid. She posts the links to her personal blog on her inspiralized account. That’s how she promotes her ali b blog.

        Fri November 17 at 9:51 pm Reply
  • Andrea Samacicia

    Ali, I’ve loved keeping up with you via social media since you’ve become a mom. You’ve articulated things so beautifully that I experienced but definitely wouldn’t have been able to put into words. Keep it up and when you’re back to work I’d love to grab a coffee! xo

    Thu November 16 at 5:11 pm Reply
  • Donna

    He’s adorable! Sounds like you and Lu are enjoying parenthood! Have fun!

    Thu November 16 at 5:27 pm Reply
  • Amanda

    Ali, I’m a paediatric health care professional. Tummy sleeping is considered extremely high risk at Luca’s age and please seriously consider a second opinion. We would never recommend this as an option unless there were health implications necessitating this. This is a dangerous practice – please consider your outreach by not promoting this via pictures.

    Thu November 16 at 9:47 pm Reply
  • Rev Rotman

    Hey Ali, I can’t imagine how hard it is to hear cruel boob comments. I have been following your personal blog since I will be a mother to be and have followed inspiralized from the beginning! I love you and your cooking style!
    I just want to put it out there about the breast feeding- I know you don’t need another boob comment, but just want to put out some food for thought…..

    I agree breast feeding is normal. It’s a basic activity of daily living for a mom- like brushing teeth, changing a tampon, shaving legs etc. Does breastfeeding need publicity? For some people breast feeding- like changing a tampon is a personal or sensitive topic. So it should be handled with sensitivity perhaps? I dunno, just let my take on it. Don’t worry, I still adore you and I won’t be unfollowing you for seeing your boob.

    Fri November 17 at 1:01 am Reply
    • Marcella

      I get what you’re saying, but not sure you can comprare breastfeeding to changing a tampon…She’s feeding her child and not showing nipple. If she posted a picture in a bathing suit she’d be showing just as much boob and no one would have a problem with that. Ali, you do you ????????

      Fri November 17 at 2:07 am Reply
  • Heather

    This is your page and your family is absolutely beautiful! I love seeing your blog, insta stories, and Instagram posts about food AND your baby. This is the internet and people are going to always be negative…please continue to post what you are posting because young women like myself and moms love seeing your experiences. Your pages make up who you are and it’s great!!! ❤️

    Fri November 17 at 1:43 am Reply
  • Marie

    You need to find another pediatrician. I can’t imagine any doctor would actually be ok with tummy sleeping at such a young age…no matter how mature the baby is.

    Fri November 17 at 2:04 am Reply
    • Kay

      Marie, when we were kids that’s how our parents were told to let us sleep. When my MIL stayed with us after my son was born she kept commenting on how weird it was to put them on their backs. We turned out just fine. This is not the craziest thing to hear of. It seems it is working well for them so why change it because YOU don’t think it’s right?

      Fri November 17 at 3:22 am Reply
      • Emily

        It’s definitely not what SHE thinks it’s right. The American Academy of Pediatrics has determined it is best for babies to sleep on their backs. Yes, some people commenting probably slept on their tummy, but I’m 29 and my mom was told to sleep me on my back. So we’re not talking about recent change. Back has been best for the last 3 decades. Ask any Pediatrician (other than Ali’s).

        Fri November 17 at 4:45 am Reply
  • Angela

    Meanwhile, Georgia’s 6 year old is still sleeping in bed with her ????

    Fri November 17 at 2:21 am Reply
  • Julie

    You’re an amazing mom and doing a great job. My daughter is 2 and a half and your instagram stories bring back so many memories and emotions. Btw, I’m pretty sure every person commenting slept on their tummy as an infant. xo

    Fri November 17 at 4:18 am Reply
  • Ali J

    Hi Ali! Congrats, I’m so happy you’re doing so well! Ignore the mean comments. It’s like how everyone who went to school thinks that they are equipped to teach- many mothers and fathers think because they did it once (or twice or ten times), that they know what’s best for you. I’m so glad to have such an incredible role model who is so open with the struggles and open about they joys. Best wishes to your sweet family and thank you for everything you bring to your community!

    Fri November 17 at 7:19 am Reply
  • Mandy

    I get that this is your personal blog and I will unfollow accordingly. Your lovely baby, husband and family need privacy, we don’t need to be witness to the constant barrage of your personal information. How your husband agrees to your lives on full graphic display beggars belief – not to mention the rights of an innocent baby who has only you as his advocate and yet he is exposed to all, every health issue and your personal choices – this is just wrong, keep him safe and out of the public domain – I signed up for your fitness tips on this site and recipes on your other site – no I’m not Mom shaming, I’m just over the drama your feeds have become.

    Fri November 17 at 2:04 pm Reply
  • Katie

    There are so many things to get in a tizzy about in this day and age. To name a few: our man-child president, starving children around the globe, the ban being lifted on importing elephant carcasses front Africa, a nutball North Korean leader…Yet these clowns get all crazy and waste energy bashing you because you posted a non-explicit picture of you feeding your baby on your own platform, that you created?! Unreal. You do you, there’s always going to be people who need to find hobbies. Keep rocking motherhood, girl!!! He’s a lucky little boy to have you for a mom!!

    Fri November 17 at 4:08 pm Reply
  • Elizabeth

    Holy moly.. this is your blog and your business. Do with it what you want and there is no need to justify choices to the public.
    I’m all for freedom of speech and expression. I love your blog and instagram pages and will continue to follow ???? As a fellow mother, thank you ❤️

    Fri November 17 at 5:19 pm Reply

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